My SO has a form of terminal cancer and his kidneys are failing. One of his kidneys is that 20% and dropping quickly the other is at 70%.

I want to donate my kidney to him. I have thought long and hard about this decision and done my research. When i tried to tell him my decision, he dismissed the idea non chalantly. He says it is too risky and does not want me to have to go through everything that it takes to become a qualified donar.

I feel this is why I was put on earth...i have an opportunity to save him. He is love of my life and we have been together for several years. I have been by his side from the very beginning of his declining health.

I have prayed long and hard my decision and have done my research. I also know for a fact if anything were to come between us and we separated years from now (God Forbid!) that I would never regret my decision.

How can I convince him to concider my decision seriously? How can I get him to not be scared for what may happen to me and accept my help so that he can finally have some relief from his illness? The risk of the surgery does not bother me, it is worth it. I have never felt like I've had a purpose in life until now. I know deep down inside I'm meant to do this..for once I want him to not see me as his S0..I want him to see me as a peer who can make her own decision about her body when it comes to saving someone elses..I want him to let me do this because he deserves it.

I just can't get him to even listen and concider.