Secretly not satisfied

I'm so in love with my husband and always want him but we're both busybwith new baby and work and I can always make time for him but he never really wants it....and I'm lucky if he wants it once a week or total of 3-4 times a month...I would never seek another man but I'm feeling like I want a female to please me while he don't want to....I have sex drive like crazy and we use to be food but vibrators and toys are considered cheating to him and he would be offended cnt believe I'm writing this!!!! And we have talked about it NUMEROUS TIMES HE SAID IT'S FROM WORK AND ETC...AND BEING TIRED I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND I'M EXAUSTED BUT ALWAYS MAKE TIME FOR HIM HELP!!!! NO BASHING EITHER AND NO HE'S NOT CHEATING