MIL keeps asking when am I having a baby.
My mother-in-law is usually pretty chill about most things, which is rare to see in Korean culture (usually Korean MILs are extremely nosy and demanding). But this past Lunar New Year holiday, DH and I visited his parents and then went to my aunt's house. It's kinda like the American Thanksgiving holiday, but in February. Anyway I dont know why it got worse this year but MIL and my 76 yr old aunt relentlessly commented, hinted at, and outright interrogated me about when we are gonna have a baby.
"Are you guys TTC yet? You should have a baby by the end of this year. It only gets harder the more you put it off. Are you planning for one yet? The love between your husband will only last a few years, so you need to have a baby before that happens and you have nothing to talk about anymore. [wtf??]" And to add the cherry on the sundae, MIL asks me "are you on birth control/ using protection?" IN FRONT OF MY FIL. Gross. It's like talking about sex in front of your dad!
We have been secretly TTC for the last 3 months and planned on surprising our parents in a fun/cute way but all their unsolicited advice and interrogation is putting me off. Way to suck the fun out of everything.
I'm curious, are other MILs or mothers or any other older female relatives in your culture the same way? 😳
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