Valentine's Day Mess!! 😢😥

Ok, so I have been dating my BF for a tad over 4 years. It will be 5 years in May 26th. We had never said "I Love You" to each other at all. I remember I said it once and all he said was "Okay" and that made me feel stupid. He's a business owner so I work for him and we live together. My family lives in Santa Maria and him and I live in Bakersfield. Which is a 3 hour drive. I go to his family events and all but when I ask him to come to mine he says "No, I Don't Mesh With Your Family" out of all the years him and I dated he's met my family once! So idk I've thought about leaving but it's hard to leave because I'm used to him bein around and the place I live in is my comfotzone. And plus him and I have a cat together. And I raised my cat when she was a baby. And if I were to move back with my mom, I would not be able to bring my cat. I'm just emotional and I feet trapped!