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I find that my strongest relationship is with someone who shares my beliefs. Even in the darkest of times we turn to God for help. God wouldn't want us to be in a loveless relationship when both have exceeding faith. Anything is possible with faith.
Which would you choose?
Back when I was a strict Christian, a friend of mine (who was the same faith as me, but he wasn't as strict), asked me this question:
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You can only choose one, and you HAVE to pick one.
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-- Guy A: Your soulmate. You love eachother greatly and everything is pretty much as perfect as it can be. BUT he isn't Christian, will never be Christian, and while he supports your choice, he also won't ever attend church activities with you.
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-- Guy B: His faith is as strong as yours. He loves The Lord, is a great man and you two get along "ok", but there's no actual love in the relationship. He isn't romantic towards you, nor you towards him, and there's just no desire between you two. It's an utterly loveless relationship and will -always- be loveless.
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I ask this because I've seen a lot of women on this app saying how they could never be with someone who wasn't of their faith - or someone who wasn't Christian at all. So I'm curious about this.
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My answer is what made me rethink my religion. Without hesitation I chose Guy B. I felt that in that scenario, it's what God would want, and I felt it was what my family would want - and I had to do right by both of them.
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So which one would you choose?
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I would choose guy B because God tells us to be equally yoked and I take that as same values, our priority of the church, our priority of our time with God. We have to be on the same page about that. As far as being loveless I believe in time God would fill our marriage with love. Because as I have found with my current fiancé praying with and for each other has bonded us closer together in our relationship. And so God would recognize our marriage as a man and woman and our covannet to him and ourselves to love each other until we die. So, I feel like us being around each other, praying with/for each other we would bond and always putting God first, he will bless us with a loving marriage.
If both you and your husband are going thru Guy B then their is something wrong going on. My husband and I are true believers in God and his son Jesus Christ (God in the Flesh) and the more we are connected to God the more we are connected to each other. And yes I am a Christian but I'm not religious I'm just a believer and I Love God. Ask God to make you a better wife a loving wife and you will see the difference. If their is nothing nice to say don't say anything at all.
I honestly wouldn't pick either if I didn't have to pick. But I would pick B because I have strong beliefs. Sorry but it's not fair to some dude even if he's awesome to be with me as a JW. It's one thing if it happened after being committed. But really, it's something really strong in me. I would drive a guy up the wall.
I chose Guy A. :) I'm a deaconess in my denomination (easiest explanation: like a nun who didn't take a vow of chastity) and my identity as a Lutheran is core to who I am and how I engage the world. Hubby has never been Christian and I can't fathom he will ever be - he's warm and open-hearted about my faith and even perfectly comfortable baptizing our baby and coming to church to support me when I preach. But I wouldn't even want him to convert - who he is spiritually - as he is- is lovely. And we really support each other's growth and discovery in ways I don't think would be possible if we were "the same."
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