So I'm having my first baby, and for some of my family it's the first grandchild/great grand child, but very few have done anything for the baby. I generally don't expect anything from my family, I like to do things myself, but being that on my dads side this is the first "grand" I'm disappointed that more hasn't been done... I do not include my great grandma or my grandma in this because they did each give us $100, and we greatly appreciate that, but I'm referring to my dad and step mom. I'm unsure if the $100 they gave us at Christmas was meant for both the baby and Christmas, or just Christmas, and at the risk of sounding ungrateful, if that was meant to cover both, I'm not going to lie, I'm disappointed... This is their first grandchild... I kinda thought they would do a little more than that... My real mom is making the baby a blanket, baby hats, and crocheting extra inserts for our cloth diapers (which I am grateful for) but again I'm disappointed because although I will need those things, it's not like we won't have any of those items... There are still plenty of items we actually really need that she could buy. She is the more financially stable one in my life who could afford to do more, but is choosing not to because "baby stuff is too expensive". I know baby stuff is expensive... Her argument is that she already has 2 grand daughters, but I don't understand how that makes my child less important, or any less needy... I know I sound selfish and entitled, but if you knew me you would understand that I don't generally expect much, I just kinda thought that my family would want to do more... Even my husbands family hasn't really don't much... His aunt bought us our crib and mattress, and we both appreciate it (even if it was just to show up everyone else), his parents are buying the travel system so I am not complaining about them, but his grandparents haven't done anything for the baby either... What I'm trying to say is I feel like our families are not as excited, or even care, as much as they have been letting on... My sister had no job and was with deadbeat guys when she got pregnant with her girls, and my family did stuff for her... She hasn't had a job for more than a month here and there in like 7 years and has been letting the people who raised her support her children, she even left them with these people so she could move in with her new boyfriend 2 hours away.... I'm married and I wanted this baby. This baby was not an accident... Why is it that my selfish, irresponsible sister got all the help she needed, but no one is willing to do anything for my child??? I really feel like I'm not important and that my child isn't important to my family... On my husbands dads side this is the first BLOOD grandchild, but no one cares about that because my husbands uncle has an adopted son who had a baby first and they consider that child the first grandchild/great grandchild in the family. It just seems that no matter what we aren't good enough for our families support... It hurts a lot felling like this... We have never asked them for anything. There is only one person we have ever asked for help and we paid him back both times, and even he hasn't done anything... I hope they do something, but if they don't, I hope my child doesn't find out, I don't want her to think that they don't care about her... Maybe it's just the hormones, but this isn't the first time they have treated me/us like we aren't important enough to them...