Marriage and rape

I see so many posts about this topic. If you tell your partner no, and he does it anyways, that IS rape. I don't even understand how this is even a question. Like if I try stuff with my partner and he even tells me "not right now" I stop dead in my tracks. Like I'm frozen. No is no. We're not 5 and no means yes. Sorry but no. No means no. No means no. No means no!