Slob boyfriend!?

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My boyfriend is a disgusting slob and I don't know how to deal with it. We don't live together, YET. We're looking for a place together and know we'll get married some day but I just can't imagine living in the mess his house is. I'm pretty clean but not ocd clean and he uses clean t shirts for tissues (literally just happened), and to wipe up anything that spills. 
When I'm here, I can ask him to help me clean but he's helpless without me here. There's never a clean towel for me on weekends to shower, the dishes pile up for weeks. I can get him to help me with about 1 thing then he starts getting distracted and annoyed that I'm making him clean. He knows that it disgusts me and I've made a very simple cleaning schedule for him that he can't even follow. 
He's GREAT with work and anything he wants to do but I cannot get him to clean! What do I do? Has anyone dated someone like this and did it get better when you moved in together? I feel like it might since I'll be here all the time to guide him... Help!

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Yes it will get better once you move in, because you'll do all the cleaning lol

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My boyfriend at the time now fiancé lived the same way before we moved into together. I thought to myself, "Oh hell no I can't live like that!" Lol I sat down with him and had a serious talk about boundaries and what I need from him and then asked him what he needs from me. It's a give and take. I learned to let some things go and he learned to care more about things that were important to me. He got so much better at cleaning once we moved into together. I'll be honest the first couple months was a adjustment for the both of us but now we're in a great groove. ☺️

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We made a chore chart with fun rewards. Like date night, Netflix movie choices, take out choices. Just make chores fun and don't make him feel inferier. I do think things will be better when you move in, but you have to make things into habits for him.

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Ugh it'll probably get worse. My husband is such a slob but at least when we were dating and not living together yet, he attempted to make things look clean. Then we moved in together and I saw how it REALLY was! 8 years later and he still drives me insane w his messiness

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Oye, I'm not OCD, but this would be a huge issue for me. Think ahead to the future. I just had my third baby, third boy. I have a 2000 square foot house and a full time plus job. My husband also works full time. My kids are tiny tornados and our lives busy. I like a fairly clean home. If I had to clean up after my kids and a slovenly husband, I'd lose it! People don't really change. Sometimes they try for a while but rarely truly change. Ask yourself this, if nothing ever changes, can you accept him for who he is now? Only you know what you can handle. Is your future being a housewife and homemaker who can clean up after him all the time? Would it eat at you or could you handle that life?

Slob boyfriend!?

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