Should I be upset?

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I know this is a little out there, but I just want to hear your guys' thoughts on this. Due to unforeseen circumstance, my boyfriend and I can't get a place for another month and a half. Before we knew that, however, I took a job working in the town where I used to live and he lives now. We work together. I have been sleeping in my car for 6 nights every week, while he is home, snuggled up in a nice warm bed. I live in northern Indiana, so winters are pretty rough. Every night the temperature is roughly 20 degrees, and my car is very poorly insulated. I sleep in my car so I'm not driving 1.5 hours two times a day and spending the entirety of my paycheck on gas so that we can save up enough to find a place as quickly as we can. And while sleeping in my car is awful, the reminder of why I'm doing it is enough to make it feel worth it.
So here's my question. Is it reasonable for me to feel anger towards him when I'm shivering in my car, trying like hell to fall asleep and he's snuggled under his heated blanket in his nice, comfortable bed? I haven't expressed my annoyance with him to him, because I am so happy that he's not the one having to do this, but it would be nice if he at least offered to stay with me some nights. (I can't stay at his house due to his worrisome mother, which I completely understand.)
I know you guys can't control my emotions, but I would just like to hear what you're thinking!

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Honestly the fact that he can even sleep knowing you are parked somewhere freezing cold just blows me away. How old are you two? Does his mom know you are resorting to sleeping in your car because your plans were ruined? Could you get a rent by the week hotel room?

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Honestly that fucked up im so sorry your dealing with this! Id think at the least he wouldnt spoken to his mother or maybe you could? Even a garage would be warmer than your car :(

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I would let your family know and his and see if someone could help you. It's too dangerous to do what your doing rape Italy being a young girl.

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No you shouldn't because you are making the choice to be doing that. Not trying to be rude but how can you be mad at him when you've decided to do that? I'm sure he's never made you sleep in your car.

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I live in Maine and I have lived in my car in the winter before, it gets down into the negative teens here for winter nights. So I understand. When I first met my husband he would sleep in my car with me just so I didn't have to be alone. So I definitely understand the anger. I would have been angry, but greatful if he hadn't slept in my car with me, but we weren't even dating yet when he did sleep in my car with me. Every relationship is different. Your emotions are rational though, I suggest a mummy sleeping bad, they are really warm or a wool blanket.

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I think it's a bad situation. I would ask the mother if you could stay in the house but a different room. Like say down a hallway or something. My husband would never let me sleep in a car, he would rather pay for a hotel room or even sneak me into his parents house if he had too!

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At your point I'd be angry at just about anyone because they are sleeping in a bed.

On one hand it's pretty fucked up that he's totally okay with you sleeping in your vehicle and it's totally fucked up that his mom and your potential mother in law is totally okay with it as well. She could at least offer you a couch to sleep on. I mean, if you're old enough to get a place together then what is she so worried about?

On the other hand I don't think he should have to sleep in your car with you. You are choosing to sleep there instead of driving the hour and a half away, he's not forcing you to. Besides, if he is staying in your car that's just less room for you.

Should I be upset?

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