Insensitive doctor or doing his job?

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I went to the doctor this past week. I am 5'4 ans I was 141 when I got pregnant and now at 27 weeks I am at 158. I also lost a little in the beginning due to throwing up. I don't eat more than normal at all, and usually healthy foods also. He said I've gained too much already and that "you were bigger than I would've liked when you got pregnant anyway". Wtf? It hurt my feelings a little. I don't think I'm overweight but I guess so.

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He's doing his job. Science shows weight can effect health and pregnancy. Women, especially when pregnant are touchy about their weight. His job is to help you have a healthy pregnancy, and thus talking about weight is part of that. Would you find him rude if he said you were too thin? Both sides of the scale can effect pregnancy. If he didn't call you fat, then yes, he is doing his job. If you know you are eating healthy and continuing to stay active while pregnant then don't take it personal, but yes, he's doing his job by letting you know that too much weight gain/too early can effect your pregnancy.

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I believe he's just doing his job. Still not easy to hear though!

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That was a very insensitive way to talk to you. If he's concerned about your weight he could've explained it a lot better

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I go to Mass General which is ranked #1 in the nation. I started out 5'4" and 146. Currently 32wks and 176. Everyone gains weight and metabolizes differently throughout pregnancy let alone the water retention. My ob is 100% fine w my weight gain. I don't think you have anything to worry about

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I'm 5 ft6in and started at 170 ish... 
My Regular Dr and I talked (before pregnancy) about getting me to my ideal weight of 150- when I felt healthiest.

So I started setting goals but a few weeks later I found out I was pregnant.

My OB was not concerned about my weight and told me to Stop dieting right away! He told me NOT to eat for two and suggested three small meals a day with healthy snacks in between.

Good luck

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my nurse and Dr told me I was overweight but I already knew that and anytime any subject that deals with my weight comes up the nurse always says "us fluffier girls" and it makes me laugh and I think I'm not sensitive to the subject 1 because I already knew I was a little overweight 2 I have no problem with it neither does my baby daddy and 3 my doctor and nurses are females so I don't care as much. happy life over here

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I told the doctor I had gained almost 20 lbs before 20 weeks and he looked at me and said, "I'm not too concerned. You look like you were probably underweight pre-pregnancy." 😤 I wanted to punch him in his man parts. I have never been underweight in my entire life. I'm 5'6 and was 140 when I started...trust me. I feel ya lady. It goes both ways. Doctors and their judgements! Lol

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I'm 5'2" and started out at 138. My doctor told me that since I was overweight to start with, I shouldn't gain more than 25 pounds. I'm 39 weeks and up to 160 right now. They seem pleased that I haven't gained a ton. I was hardly even overweight, only considered overweight because I was muscular and have wide hips and big boobs. But I'd say he's just doing his job.

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It really depends on the doctor and how they were taught in med school. I work in a hospital and we have a doctor that used to put patients who were overweight or obese on a diabetic restricted calorie diet even if they had no signs of diabetes. Needless to say after many patient compliant she doesn't do that anymore

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My doc recent told me I was "tipping the scales" I feel your pain.

Insensitive doctor or doing his job?

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