Pregnancy and labor rant...

I've been having contractions every 1-3 minutes since Tuesday. Two days of this. And when we did a cervix check, I was dilated to 5cm. Most people would be at the hospital getting ready to have their baby. Me? Nope. I'm told to just stay home and wait. Why? Just because my water hasn't broke. UHM HELLO MOST WOMEN DONT HAVE THEIR WATER BREAK ON ITS OWN! Oh and the other reason I'm told to stay home is because this is my first baby and she's not due until tomorrow. So first borns can't come early? Guess not according to my midwife! This is just ridiculous. When I was 37 weeks, we measured 41. She's obviously in stress with her HR being up in the 180s when she's usually around 140-150. I will NEVER go with a midwife again. The ones I've seen have been nothing but rude and not caring about me or my wishes.