Putting TTC on the back burner

Since beginning to TTC my sex life is just a struggle. It's a "hurry and be done" kinda thing with my husband so he can get back what he wants to do... I'm spending a lot of money on tests and vitamins and if he isn't into it then I'm not going to bother. Granted he likes "finishing" and wants kids but it's just a chore rather then a fun romantic time together and that's what I need. I don't get very "excited" anymore bc he's such a mood killer... idk how else to tell him bc I've been so blunt about how I feel and he just does w/e wants. I don't even let him finish me anymore bc he's rough and it hurts but he doesn't care... so I'm just going to put TTC on the back burner...