Searching for birth moms

Sarah • We just had our rainbow baby 3/2/19 after 5.5 years of ttc and 3 miscarriages.
Hi everyone! My husband and I will be starting the  adoption process in June if our infertility treatments don't take. We plan on doing a private adoption and have reached out to a local adoption attorney. I know we have to do our home study and a few other thing...
But how have you found your birth/ adoptive parents? 
The process is so confusing and here's so much info to sift through lol