Ok ladies - my husband is great. We are very open with eachother and extremely close. I have one concern that I don't know how to address. I have a great job with great stability. I feel like he relies on that a lot. We have some debt and I'd like to clear it and feel comfortable. He hasn't worked in over 6 months .. Life is expensive and if we both don't work and feel comfortable now when will we? We can survive off what I make but I want to plan trips, I want to go shopping and not feel guilty, I want to have money saved for when we get pregnant.. I've talked to him causally and showed him our finances and how we need another income but I don't think that's driving him into being more aggressive. This is a sensitive topic because I don't want him to feel insecure that I make more or I'm the bread winner ... What would you do? I haven't enjoyed the benefits of being successful at what I do because I'm always worried! Both our families think he's working and they assume we are saving money and living life. I also think him being home all day is depressing. I encourage him to go workout, go to book stores, meet people for lunch ..etc etc. but he doesn't do much. I don't want him to sink into depression.