Am I in the wrong?

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Today I was on Facebook and saw pictures of my boyfriend and two girls who he goes to an education centre with, and he had quite obviously not taken the pictures as he was in the background of most of them, looking away. 
These girls had gotten a hold of his phone, taken the pictures and uploaded them. 
This wouldn't bother me normally, at all, but this time it did. 
For the past few weeks he had not let me near his phone, saying that he didn't want my birthday present/ surprise to be ruined, and I respected that. 
The only time he would let me touch his phone would be to change a music track. 
It then progressed to him thinking that the minute I touched his phone I would go through it, and that was never the case! I don't even know his password. 
I then come to the realisation that if these girls have been able to get onto his camera and then Facebook, they must have his password. 
So I message him, questioning him why they are allowed on his phone and I'm not. 
The girl taking the photos answers me.
She instantly starts telling me to inbox her if I have a problem, that she was a borrowing his phone to make a call, before telling me to pipe down. 
Of course, by now I'm mad. 
How dare they?
He obviously knows she has his phone and that she's answered me, why would he allow that? 
After a short disagreement with her, he finally messages me, telling me he hates when I assume things and that he cries himself to sleep because of the way I act. That he loves me, but I make him feel small and worthless when I do this. 
He also said that I push him away every time this happens, but I can't understand why I wouldn't? 
I am prone to being jealous, I will admit, but it's not as bad as he makes it out to be. 
I just don't understand why or how he can trust these "strangers" (because that's what they are) with his phone and password but not me. 
Am I in the wrong? 
I'm fed up with feeling like the bad guy when he's the one letting strangers go through his messages. 
Help?

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Nope nope nope ,I would be extremely outraged but that's just me . If she's replying to you from his phone she is to comfortable.

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She's too comfortable answering your texts. Who does she think she is, more importantly, what position has he gave her?

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It seems to me he's trying to redirect your issue by telling you how much he is bothered by it.  In a sense trying to make you feel bad. This usually means he's guilty of something. Don't waste your time.

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If you are in a relationship with someone you should be able to be on that persons phone. The only reason they wouldn't allow it is because they're hiding something.

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If someone won't let you near their phone then that is a huge warning sign. I wasted a year of my life with someone like that. I'm now in a loving and trusting relationship. Don't waste your time x

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He can't let you near it, but these girls have free range. Also this girl thinks she's fine to text you that? She is wayyyyy to comfortable within your relationship. Especially if he ok'd it. If he thinks you're so horrible then he should have left already, he's just trying to make you feel bad.

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Trust, trust, trust is the foundation of every relationship! It's seems your problem is with your boyfriend and not those girls. I wouldn't waste my time entertaining them because you aren't in a relationship with them. Sit your boyfriend down and have an honest conversation with him. Let him know your weakness and that you're working on it, but he must also be willing to do things which build your relationship up, not tear it down!

Good Luck,
Briana

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I would be upset too. And he should have enough respect for you to not allow these ladies to put a wedge in your relationship. And further more if she was borrowing his phone to make a call that is one thing but she has no business answering his messages, nor does she have the right to get upset about your message to him.

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That just seems weird to me. My boyfriend and I pretty much share phones lol. I know his password and he knows mine. If my phone isn't close to me and his is I'll just use his instead of mine.

Am I in the wrong?

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