Would you let it go?
So my mom and I have not had the best relationship unfortunately, for many reasons. We have had a lot of drama. She called my boyfriend and his family trash on Facebook after he stood up for me when she announced that her business was moving 4 hours away and didn't tell me. This matters because I literally ran it for a year and half while she was living with and working for her boyfriend so I found out that was that I was basically losing my job. During this pregnancy she hasn't supported me and basically said what is there to be excited for when I'm not married and have no degree. (I live with my boyfriend, have been with him for 2 and half years, and we dated on and off in high school. I'm also 7 courses away from graduating with my bachelor's and will be doing so in December) I then found out now 4 years later that I had a school loan taken out in my name during my first year of college. She took it out and then said I needed to apologize for accusing her of being a thief when I told her I wasn't even accusing her of being a thief and that I just wanted to know why I wasn't told and what happened to that money.. Of course like a month before my due date she starts to be nice to me and trying to make plans to spend time together this summer etc.
Anyway I'm currently 38 weeks and 4 days along. What I'm about to ask advice for is going to seem minor but it bothers me. She always chooses the most vulgar, insensitive, and just obnoxious words when she talks about certain things and I hate it. It makes things uncomfortable when she does it in front of people especially and it pisses me off. Today she told me to "spit that kid out and let's go to the beach lol". It may not seem like a big deal but I feel like she doesn't care about what I'm about to go through. I mean she hasn't cared this whole time and it just annoys me that she would say that to someone who's uncomfortable and about to give birth. She called my boyfriend my sperm donor and called our baby his offspring. And back when I was 18 and she found out I was having sex she said something along the lines of me opening my legs to my boyfriend. These are just a few examples as to how she words things. And I think I would sound petty pointing it out to her when we aren't technically fighting and this time she said it in a not outright negative way, although the I'm bitter. I don't even think she would see that it's insensitive either or she would pretend to and I would feel guilty. Some people probably wouldn't even think this is an issue but you just have to know our situation I guess and the way she talks to people. Would you just let it go? If not what would you say?
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