Opinions please! Is this normal?

Question

So I'm wondering if this is normal, but I care for my boyfriend so unbelievably much. So much so that it scares me to be honest. Like it's scary cause I honestly haven't cared for someone as much as I care for him, and I just have so much emotion and everything when it comes to him that it's just so new to me and I don't know how to handle it. There's so many strong feelings towards him to handle. I'm always trying to touch him & I get so bummed out when I'm not with him or when I have to leave him. It's just so new to me, and it's early on in our relationship. It just makes me nervous cause we haven't been together for long, like what if we break up in the future? I don't see that happening but what if. The thought just kills me. It's so devastating & it breaks my heart to even think that. Plus I always, like always want to be with him. But I don't want to smother him obviously.& I get jealous over everything, like every little thing. He can be petting his dog and I'll be jealous I'm not getting his attention & etc. like stupid little stuff like that. I've never been this jealous over the stupidest things. I just can't help it. Is it normal to be so passionate about someone that it just scares you? Also I'm 18 & he's 21, & we've been together nearly 5 months. I've been in multiple relationships but I've never had these types of strong feelings.

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I feel you girl. I've always had very strong emotions in general, and I get attached like that too. I would get so nervous just like you worrying about "what if we break up?" early on in my current relationship. I felt and still feel such strong emotions towards him which I don't think he even realizes because although I feel emotions pretty heavily, I don't usually express them very well. I didn't experience the jealousy quite like you I don't think, but I did have it at times. I will say that we are almost 5 years in now still doing great and I don't think so much about breaking up or get jealous and all that because I feel a lot more secure in the relationship now. The only thing I still have are those overwhelming emotions at times but I'm able to keep them in check a bit better now. I guess I still on occasion get anxious and sad trying to think what I'd do if we broke up, but it's a lot more rare than it was long ago.
I would think over time your worries and jealousy will diminish as you feel more secure with him. I will say though to really try and keep the jealousy controlled. Let your mind get clear and then really consider if you're overthinking whatever it is you feel jealous about. Don't jump the gun and start getting confrontational with him over something small before you've really thought about it.

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If you weren't 18 I'd want to slap you but since you are, I'd say have fun enjoy the joys of Love it's cute. But keep your own identity try doing some things without him, bc always being with him is not reality forever!

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I was, and still am, the same way. Like rn my bf is laying alone at home, sick, and throwing up. I really wanna go over there and help him but he told me he just needs to rest. I feel so lonely right now mostly because I can't help him. We've been together for about 8.5 months.

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I felt like that when I met my man at 18, I married him a year later, and we've been happily married ever since.

Opinions please! Is this normal?

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