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Disappointed & confused

J • Tue, Jun 14

My SO has a lot of issues at the moment, he was behind on child support on his son from being out of work for three months so he had a bunch to pay back, he has to pay a lawyer to go try and get his license back, he had 8 weeks to get these two things done. Neither are done. Where the hell is all of his money going? I know he doesn't make anything huge but that's just asinine that in 8 weeks were still at square one. 8 weeks I have 2100 saved up. I've paid for gas and eaten out a few times, my one splurge was a bikini for the summer. I just don't understand how you can blow ALL of your money and literally have nothing at this point when saving or at least getting shit taken care of is the ONLY thing I asked him to do, I told him he NEEDS to prove himself that I can count on him, gave him 8 weeks.

It took everything i had not to blow up on him. I know he over pays for child support for one, which whatever that's your son you spoil the hell out of him idc. I know he eats out once sometimes twice a day. He way over pays people to take him to work and back, I'm talking the drive is maybe $10 in my truck that gets 10mi to the gallon and he pays $50 plus buys them food and they have vehicles that get 20-40mpg. I know he sure as hell didn't cut back on beer and dip expenses.

I'm just so stressed out and feeling like things aren't going to work. We are supposed to drive CROSS country in sept and I sure as hell am not going to be paying for all of it. The goal was the have all of his things taken care of by the time I got back; he had from beginning of May till begining of July and he won't have them taken care of. We were BOTH supposed to be at the point of saving money by July not just me putting $ in. I just don't see it working and it's heartbreaking.

Some people will say it's not all about the money and trust me I totally agree, the thing is it's all about priotities and at 26 you should have them pretty damn straight in my opinion and if they aren't they should become that way when you realize baby #2 is on the way. I just don't know what to do, I don't want to nag the hell out of him about it but I'm SO FRUSTRATED!

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