Well my husband has a son from his ex and I kinda felt too weird in the beginning as well, I didnt know how to act and what to say because I obviously didnt want to like put myself in his sons moms place. He barely saw him and had nothing to do with him at all he just gave them money but couldnt even hold him (he was about 6 months when I met him the first time) because my husband never had a father or a proper mother and didnt know what to say or do.

So basically I became really good friends with his ex, she loved her son but she said she just doesnt want to do it and couldnt do it and she wanted a normal life and her career and everything and she's just not a girl who can stay at one place and have an everyday routine to take care of and the responsibility of a mom and we agreed that she'd much rather let her son call me mom and not her.

It was an awkward situation because my hubby had to get used to him but we figured it out by really talking through everything.

He never wanted to talk or try but just because he was too scared to fail and end up like his own father but we talked and we did so much together so we just grew together.

We talked so we could set like limits he told me I can raise him like I want to but other people like your husband maybe wont want that. You should ask him whats okay and whats not and set limits on like for example idk how much time you spend with him.

Basically the key to being a step mom is 100% communication and real love. I love him to death, he's our firstborn, my baby boy and I hate calling myself a step mom.

You need to really love his daughter or at least learn to love her if you dont, talking to her if she's old enough will help as well but dont feel bad about yourself or somehow left out.

Lots of love and luck💓💓

Have you ever felt ganged up on by your man and his child?