Is it possible to get back trust?

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About 6 months ago my boyfriend cheated on me, it was just a kiss but it was with one of my friends. Not that it makes it any better but my friend is mental, and was cheating on her boyfriend at the time with about 4 different guys, we're not really friends now but for lots of reasons not just because she kissed my boyfriend. But yeah, he didn't tell me for about 2 months and one night we were drinking and I said to him 'I feel like you've done something questionable' right then he broke down crying and came clean about it...

So obviously that broke my heart, he told me he was having some doubts about our relationship at the time but as soon as he actually cheated he knew it was me he wanted to be with. Ever since he told me he has been amazing and honestly treated me like a princess, and I do believe it's not just the guilt and that our relationship is genuinely stronger.

We have mostly the same group of friends so we hardly ever go out without each other but on the rare occasion he goes out without me I do worry a bit that he'll cheat. I guess I don't know if that's an understandable thing or if it's a complete lack of trust. Before the whole cheating thing came out I honestly never considered he would be unfaithful and o trusted him 100%

I want to be with him and I know he wants to be with me, we're pretty much inseparable and have such a good relationship, the only problem is when he goes out I do worry still that he'll cheat. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Do you think I'll ever stop feeling this way? Please don't give me grief for staying with him after he cheated because it was a hard decision but I believe it was the right one...

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I think you did the right thing by staying with him. He seems remorseful. As for always wondering, well that's just normal. But if he hasn't given you a reason not to trust him, then don't worry about it.

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Sometimes guys make mistakes. My fiancé cheated on me wayyyyy back when we first started dating. Boy, I was mad. I let him have it. But after I just took a week to myself, I really missed his company so I took him back. That was almost 4 years ago. It took about a full year to get back to completely trusting him again, but now, I know he'd never even dream of it. He picked me to spend the rest of his life with, after all. I don't always believe "once a cheater always a cheater." With some people that's true, but in my experience, he just fucked up and he really regretted it and I'm not at all sorry I took him back. He's wonderful.

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Yes. It's called bravery and effort.
The bravery is because sweetheart you need to let it go. You can't do that if when you see him that's all you think about.
You need to have a break where no contact is a rule ideally don't tell him. Unless he bombards you. Don't say how long for.
The effort is starting the new relationship.
Also during your no contact try to think about what you want in your own life, do you really want him or do you just miss him, miss being in a relationship.

Is it possible to get back trust?

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