I Get it but.....

If you e been married before and are now divorced I get it if you take a while to get remarried, if you even want to get remarried. Idon't  understand people that date for years and years and years and never get married. I understand if a previous marriage left a bad taste in your mouth but why does that mean that every guy you come in contact with or date is bad. Sometimes things just don't work out, it happens but as long as you try really hard whenever there are problems in a relationship then that's all you can do. Remember that you can't force someone to love you and you can't keep someone from cheating on you. Marriage isn't bad, just the guy you were with was bad. I also don't get people who date for forever but never take it further even to be engaged and continue to have a ton of kids and live together. If you're doing all that together then why not just have a live together and make it official. Marriage isn't bad, if someone hurt you it doesn't mean everyone is going to hurt you. Just be smart on who choose to share your life and kids with. Take your time to be truly alone and get to know yourself again after a bad marriage or relationship.