2. Being a single parent is the hardest thing on the planet and I commend anyone who has had to do it 100% alone, you are super mom/dad and deserve the world. 

3. Communication is key. Literally..it is the key. Use your words. Express yourself. Understand each other. Just do it. 

4. A healthy sex life is important. It keeps you connected and close. It's not THE most important thing, but it is definitely important and it keeps people happy.

5. People surprise you. I thought my husband didn't have a romantic bone in his body. Until we were separated, going through a divorce and he was begging me everyday to let him show me how much I mean to him. I was so so wrong. 

6. Be silly. Don't be so uptight all of the time. Just be goofy. Be ridiculous. Uptight is boring. 

7. Your kids are happier when they see you happy. I thought a divorce would make me happy. I was even seeing another man. I noticed my two year olds behavior was getting pretty bad, ornery even. I thought it was just the "terrible twos" and now I see how happy she is to have her family together again, and I realize just how much it was effecting her.

8. My husband and I both dated other people while we were apart. I never realized how easy my husband was to deal with until this happened. Appreciate the little things. Really, truly appreciate them. They are everything. The little things add up. Sure, the big things are nice. But it's the little things that matter the most. 

9. NEVER STOP DATING EACH OTHER. I repeat, NEVER STOP DATING EACH OTHER. The first date we went on to "rekindle the flame" was actually magical feeling. It was light & fun and we had THE BEST TIME. We even rode a mechanical bull together (be silly, remember). It was perfect. Go on a date. Go now. Just go. 

10. Give massages, give head rubs, cuddle, be intimate without sex. Just love each other. Love love love. Even when you don't want to. Even when the last thing you want to do on the earth is give a back rub, do it anyways. Love each other. 

I never truly appreciate my husband until I almost lost him. I almost gave up on us. I signed the papers and so did he but somehow the universe created a glitch in the system that never sent our divorce through & in that moment I decided to just try. Just try and see what happens. I have never been so happy than I am right now. <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.nurture">Nurture</a> your relationship. Get out of your comfort zone & routine and do something fun. Marriage is FUN. I will never almost divorce my husband again. The next time (and hopefully there won't be one) I feel the urge to leave him, I'm going to take him on a date instead. Relationships are always going to be hard. We have to be resilient, we have to keep fighting through the tough times, we have to love each other. ❤️❤️

Obviously this doesn't apply to abusive relationships, if you are being abused in any aspect leave their sorry ass and do not look back. 

*** I also wanted to add this: it's not always about winning the argument. Sometimes it's about letting things go, and putting your ego aside for the good of the relationship. Sometimes we have to stand our ground, but sometimes we need to ask ourselves, "is this really worth fighting over?" 

I got so much feedback from this post that I decided to take the plunge and finally create a blog. You guys should check it out 😁 

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