Identity crisis?😣

Question

For those of u who already have kids, did you lose yourself after you became a mom? I'm 39 weeks pregnant with my first and feeling like I don't even know myself anymore. Soon I will just be a mommy rather than an individual. It doesn't help that my body is changed beyond recognition. Even if I can find clothes that I like that fit, I still don't feel comfortable or like myself. I can't even excersice right now because of high blood pressure. Working out used to be my #1 hobby. And I just don't have time or motivation for my other hobbies like drawing and writing. Maybe I'll feel better once my body solely belongs to me again. But, from what I hear, that won't be til long after the baby is out. Some moms can't even use the bathroom without their toddler following them in. I guess I'm leaving my youthfulness behind me now... thats such a weird thought. 😓

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I don't think so. I'd show heaps of before and after pics but they're all the same.

I had a low starting threshold though haha hardly any friends, never went out partying or clubbing etc so the switch to kiddie activities wasn't that hard.

We've actually travelled more and had more fun since becoming parents and it's been amazing to show our son new experiences. We plan days/weekends of fun like catching a ferry or train into the city to have lunch because we know he'd enjoy that, we never did that before having him.

I still dress the same (like a 4 YO), I still talk the same, I still feel the same, except now I know I'm responsible for a little human being :)

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It seems tragic at first and the first few months are rough as fuck but as long as you have a good support system around you willing and able to take baby for a few hours so you can just be you for a while it gets easier and then once you establish a sense of routine and normalcy it all falls into place. I was the last person anyone believed would have children, even I didn't believe it, but 5 years in and I have a wonderful son and a beautiful daughter on the way and at first I had this sense of doom because my son is pretty independent now he's potty trained feeds himself doesn't want or need my constant attention anymore, and I was like shit... Here we go again but time fly's and once she's here I know that all be consumed with her and all her adorableness and it makes it bearable and worth it. The saddest realization I've had watching my son grow is that he's slowly needing me less and less and yes that gives me more time with me but I'd rather have more time with him

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Definitely. Especially after spending three years as a stay at home mom. Finally I had to go back to work just so I could feel like me again. Once baby is born make time for yourself, even if it's just getting away for a cup of coffee.

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When I go out with my boy I'm ayla and soren haha and soon I'll be ayla and the boys

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My son is three and kinda all I am about. Lol mom constantly. But once you have the baby you'll see. I can't go anywhere dates with hubby.. Vacation without missing my little boy., it changes you and I wouldn't have it any other way. Being a mommy is the best

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I'm a mom but I'm still me. I'm just at a stage where my life revolves around my kids. And I wouldn't change it at all.

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You will be a mom for a few years.  But after a while you become a person again. Lol

Identity crisis?😣

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