How soon

How soon is too soon to start dating feeling like a lost pup since me and my ex fiancé broke up and the out break up was horrible honestly wish it didn't have to end like it did and sometimes I wish it didn't have to end at all but he was abusive. Now that I'm out here solo dolo I can't get a hang of this new dating thing it's been 2 1/2 yrs since I had to worry about this really thought my ex was the one and now that o figure he's not idk what to do w/ myself can't tell if the guy really likes me for me or if he's just wanting to have sex with me then he says oh I want you as in not jus sex but me but then I cringe up and get scared and nervous cause I don't wanna let another guy break my heart idk help cause I'm so confused by men now it's crazy I use to have mojo now it's just a dusty and honestly I don't even feel like putting in the work I just want him to pop up like bloop and theeere we have it idk smh writing this really makes me see how much I don't know what I'm doing i like hard I love hard so...I'm 👌🏾 close to saying f it and going back to my ex like fureal