Am i just overly attatched?

Question

Okay so my boyfriend and i havent been dating for long at all, but we have been pretty serious about our relationship. I feel like he has moved passed all the lovey stuff and just skipped right to being comfortable while im over here worrying that he has lost interest. Im getting some pretty geavy anxiety and i domt want to ask him aboit it because i have before and he told me that nothing has changed. I dont know if its my head, my emotions from my period... or what. But i need some girl advice, and quick 😣😰

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Personally, I would discuss it with him honestly but without being to sensitive or blame-y. It sounds like you talked with him before, but it didn't really register with him; but if you are literally having anxiety over it, then it is important. So I would bring it up, but focus on my own feelings, let him know that I am missing the romance we used to have and that I feel we may be getting too comfortable. I think it is important to never forget to put effort into the relationship. It doesn't have to be a chore; just small gestures and being mindful of the other person and their needs means a lot. It is normal to have needs-- for you that need is to see that he cares-- and you are not being unreasonable when you voice them. It is healthier that way. 
Personally, I don't think that the issue is really with him "losing interest" in you. So I would make peace with my concerns in that way. I think the issue is that he has gotten to a point where he feels like he has you, and so he doesn't need to put in the effort. But if he doesn't feel he needs to put in the effort, then you are likely going to continue to feel unloved. So in that case, it is not about him trying to convince you that he does care, in spite of his actions (because that will not help); instead, it is about him adjusting his actions to SHOW he cares. If he doesn't, and you are already having this issue early on in the relationship, then I think it is unlikely that you will remain happy together for long. 
It is not that he is doing anything "bad," necessarily. But if you continue on this way, there is a good chance you will end up feeling neglected and the relationship will wither. If he cares for you and wants you to feel loved, then he needs to make the effort to show it. I would not tell him what he "needs" to do, however; I would simply share my concern that the relationship will not grow if we don't nurture and remain attentive to it.

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When this happened to me, my BF was going to college. After one month then him coming back things were great. The next time he came back I was a sex toy. I got lucky to get a text. He claimed he did it to "not miss me so much" when I dumped him he hasn't stopped missing me. Not sorry.

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Okay, I had pretty much the same issues with my bf. He is my first ever and so I really don't have much experience, but I do know the best thing is to talk to him. I know you already did that, but instead of accepting that as an answer, explain your feelings about it. If he doesn't care to even try to reassure you/ slash prove it to you, I would start to break things off because, to me, that proves he doesn't care.

Am i just overly attatched?

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