Hemorrhoid help!!!?? :(

I had a small hemorrhoid before giving vaginal birth to my son (I pushed for 2 hours which probably didn't help the situation). Now, almost 3 weeks PP, my hemorrhoid has become so painful I cannot sit or do anything that moves/touches that area without feeling an extremely painful burning. I've tried witch hazel pads (patting them on the area) but it just leaves me feeling damp and doesn't help much. What else can I do!? I've been taking stool softners (I'm terrified to have a bowel movement now with this pain). PLEASE HELP! :(