How do I forget?

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Sorry for the long story....

So I unexpectedly met a guy on an app. Weirdest way to find a guy. Not even a dating app. I had this game on my phone that I played when I was bored... which was pretty much all the time but anyways this game is online so you meet people all around the world. There were many many creeps who I just ignored and alot of crazy insane girls but one day a guy started talking to me and he was completely normal. Ha! I say normal but he was very weird but the super cute weird. We talked for a good month when he asked if we could finally call each other. I was little nervous and skeptical but we became great friends right from the beginning. We learned so much about each other and we found out that we only lived two hours away. The thing is I live in Michigan and he lives in Canada. Bummer right? Such a pain. We hadn't planned on meeting each other so soon but we talked about it for the future.

Soon after we started calling we began using skype. We had never seen each other before this and I notice now we never discussed our appearances. That never mattered to us. Our personalities kept us busy and distracted and I had already fallen for him before I saw his face. He is so handsome and that grin he always made at me drove me mad! We Skyped every night for 8 months. 8 months! We have been through so much together even though we have never met in person. We've laughed and we even cried in front of each other. I don't see many men cry but seeing him cry broke me. This guy stole my heart and he told me he loved me and I love him. We even talked about our future together which we always thought was weird that we would discuss but we truly felt we had found the one. I had thought. He told me so many times and knew I was the one. Idk what happened. I guess the distance started to weigh too much and I mean it seriously hurts so much to be so far away from someone you love and want to hold.

So one weekend he moves in his new apartment with his friends and they don't have Internet yet. For two weeks he doesn't have Internet so we can't skype. Then I go to a concert known as faster horses for a week. That weekend he tells me he can't do the distance any longer and that he wants more for me. He told me that he still loves me which haunts me every day. We are trying to be friends because honestly we don't have many people we tell everything to and I mean everything. It's been a month since I've seen his face. He's on a camping trip now and I'm going fucking insane. I keep telling myself I'll be alright and we'll be great friends and move on but I can't just unloved someone. Even worse when he said he still loves me. I wish I could just forget. But I could never. The most important thing came into my life unexpectedly one day but why does that thing have to hurt me so bad. Still cry every night thinking about our phone calls.

Does it ever get better?
Has anyone befriended their ex?

Just a friend to talk to...
If you have any questions about my great situation here feel free to ask away.

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I've never personally experienced this exact situation, but I've always been told that sometimes you meet the right one at the wrong time. If it's meant to be, it will be. It sounds so cliche, but everything in life happens for a reason. You don't know what's going through his head. He doesn't know what's going through yours. Have you talked to him anymore about it? Have you told him that he doesn't get to decide what he deserves? If so, stop focusing on the negative. Take the happy parts of your relationship and focus on them. Don't let the bad outweigh the good. If you love him still, don't let that part of your heart become full of negativity and frustration. If you pray, pray for peace and solitude with the situation. Pray that you'll meet again. If you don't, have hope. Have faith in the universe. Have faith that it will work itself out eventually, whether that means you both take different paths or you walk life together. But until then, you can't dwell on the sad and broken parts of the relationship. Just be happy with yourself... And be happy for him and his life. Pamper yourself. Distract yourself. That's all you can do. I wish you the best, sweetie. 💕

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I went through the same situation awhile back. I met this guy I worked with for over a year. The first 6 months we didn't even matter to each other then one day we bonded over this one really taboo topic. Then we started talking more and more and realized holy shit this is my soul mate. My twin flame. We could have a conversation without even saying a word. Had so many inside jokes and laughed at the dumbest shit that no one else could even find funny. It was great. Then I had to move to another state. So we tried to fit our entire relationship and goodbyes in within 5 months and it was terrible. Saying good bye was terrible. We texted and facetimed constantly. Then it started to die down. I still feel the same way sometimes. I miss it. He'll always be my best friend,  but now that I don't see him daily it makes it easier. to go weeks without texting him. I also met someone else and am now married. It's been years and it does get easier. You have to be patient and just understand that you can still be friends if anything. Hope it starts getting easier for you.

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If his name is Jim and he's a big guy with tats run away lol sorry sounds just like my cousins ex (recently broken up thank god).  Move on try a real dating app to find someone you won't need a passport to see.  The one is out there waiting for you to find him. And this guy obviously wasn't the one.  Good luck!

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