Family really wants me to circumcise?

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I know it's pretty hotly debated but that's not what I'm looking for now. Based on what I've read, I'm firm on not circumcising my son. Nothing agaisnt anyone who decides differently. I'm looking for advice on dealing with a family where everyone is circumcised and they all are pushing me (with one reason or another, some with false information) to do it. I'm not good with confrontation, and so far, my grandma, aunt and mom have all came to me with "good intentions" and strongly advised/insisted that I do it. I just sort of sit there nodding, because they're all very strong and outspoken women and there's no "disagreeing" without straight out arguing. I'm looking for advice from anyone who has dealt with this sort of thing, whether you circumcised or didn't against your families wishes. 
As a side note, the babies father is intact and doesn't care either way, so it's solely my decision against my family. 
How do I stick to my guns without being rude/combative?

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Don't even involve them in the decision? They don't need to know, just tell them you'll do what you and your husband decide is best, and just brush off any questions or attempt to bring it up. It's absolutely none of their business or concern, period.

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I just avoided the topic with my family amd they eventually dropped it.

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Just say "it's not up for discussion. We don't feel a need to involve the family in our decision." I've said this many times about many things throughout this pregnancy. If they give me grief I get nasty. They've learned by now. Good luck!

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You don't have to be combative, just tell them you're not doing it, end of discussion. Just because they keep going on about it, doesn't mean you have to participate.

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My family kept telling me to have it done if we found out that we were having a little boy and plain and simply, I told them that it's my child therefore it's my choice to have it done or not. My boyfriend is Hispanic and apparently I'm their heritage, it's really uncommon to be circumcised. He decided later on in his teen years to have a partial circumcision done and has told me many times how he regrets it. Anyhow, I left the choice of it up to him entirely since I don't even have a oenis and would know the pros or cons against it. This is not something that your family members need to be involved in. If you don't want it done, that's that and they need to respect that.

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You could always stick with the nodding, don't say anything specific and just leave it until the baby is born. Then if they keep asking just let them figure it out that you're not going to do it. OR tell them to hit the bricks and it's your son and what on earth does it matter? It's not like the men in your family are going to whip out their dicks at family functions and bond over the fact that they are all circumsized! It's ridiculous that they would even have an opinion.

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I'd probably do the same with just nodding along while they're talking, I'm not good with confrontation. In the end it's your baby so as long as you tell the doctor you don't want it done, they won't do it.

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It's your baby, your choice. If they can't accept your decision then that's their problem.

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My mom has brought it up several times and I just keep firmly telling her that we have decided against circumcision. It's a decision for the parents to make, not the rest of the family.

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I believe my family is pro circumcision, (they're also very "do it my way") but the topic has yet to come up because we don't know what the baby is yet. I understand where you're coming from, my family would make a scene of it too. Even if you're super nice about it.
Just don't say anything. And don't do it. They can't FORCE you to circumcise the baby LOL and if they're petty enough to bring it up constantly, I just limit contact. Not putting myself in that situation
Good luck!! LOL

Family really wants me to circumcise?

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