When your partner won't BD

Question

When you want to have a baby so bad 
But your partner does not 
After getting you pregnant once on accident and accepting it, but then you miscarry 
And now you want it again more than ever 
But he's being very careful not to let it happen again. 
It just hurts. 
This is something I want strongly and I'm running out of time before I'm 30 and I want to have a child before I am 30 definitely 
But he said he will not do it until a few years after that 
I love him but this is a big thing 
It's not disagreeing over toilet paper brand 
Or bed spread 
I want it so much that I'm open to leaving him for someone who wants the same things I do when it comes to children. 
Bc that is so important. 
And I'll never be happy if I just accept his decision and wait until he's ready.

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If you have different life goals and life plans then maybe you should move on. It's not fair to push him into a baby he isn't ready for but you shouldn't have to wait either. I had a friend go through this and they just unfortunately had to part ways but they are both happier now.

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That's so hard... That would be a deal breaker for me too.

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Why before 30? It sounds like you both need to sit down, have a discussion and get on the same page.  I husband wanted kids before I did but he didn't push me, he knew I would be ready when I was ready.  It isn't the kind of issue you can force, and if you did, would that really be the kind of environment you would want to bring a child into?  I suppose you have to decide if having what you want right now if more important than your partner, and decide what to do from there.

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I can understand that you want a baby badly, but there seems to be a bigger issue here. If you want a baby so badly that you're willing to leave him for someone else, that tells me that your feelings for him are no longer the reason that you're together, and maybe it would be better to find someone else anyway. 
I'm with my fiancé because I love him, with or without kids, I want to be with him. 
Maybe the one you're with isn't the one you should be planning to have kids with. There has to be something there other than the idea of family. 
For that reason alone, I say that you should leave. It sounds like the relationship itself isn't fulfilling anymore, don't settle.

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Before 30 is recommended especially for the first baby.
It's sad to say but if he don't want kids now mabye he just don't really like kids..

I got pregnant at 17 with my first on accident he seemed to accept it but he wasent a great dad I went through the BS with him being a terrible dad for 3years to two kids (both by him) I finally left him an I'm now with an amazing man that loves my kids and has done more for them in the few months we been togerher then their dad has done for them we are also expecting a baby together now am both very happy!

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I also wanted to get pregnant before 30. Guess what I only found my man after I turned 30... So we got together, spent 2,5 years and BF and GF, he proposed, we were engaged for half a year, we got married and after a year and a few months it was time to start a family. I am 35 and will give birth this month. I had the smoothest pregnancy, no problems at all, if you are healthy in general, it does not have to be a problem that you are over 30. So figure out is it you want to be pregnant because of age only, or because you want a baby badly. If the latter, it is harder. I don't believe you can convince a man that he has to want a baby. It can lead to problems later on. Waiting might be hard but if you leave him, you've to find someone new and wait out the right time for him to have a family... If you can be, try to be patient now!

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You both need to be on the same page. If you end up getting pregnant and he has told you he's not ready, he might never get over that. Not only that, but he might not bond with your child the same way he would if the baby was consensual on both parts. You need to sit down and have a heart to heart with him.

When your partner won't BD

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