Engaged! Tips?

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I just got engaged to my wonderful boyfriend! Because it's a big step in life..I was just curious..what are some tips (big or small) to keep a happy healthy marriage (I know marriage is forever and I'm ready for that) but I just want to hear from you ladys:)

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-Always keep forgiveness in your heart

-Don't go to bed with problems unsolved

Example: 
 -Always keep forgiveness in your heart
-Don't go to bed with problems unsolved

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Believe in your partner's good intentions.

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Never turn down love making (with your partner) if you can possibly help it.

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Think before you speak about tough topics.  Identify what your objective is in bringing up the discussion.  Think about how to honor and respect your partners view point and processing approach.

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- proactive counseling.  Don't wait until things are built up with resentment, hurt, or lack of trust.  Work through things proactively to be more optimal connection and communication

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Anytime you have a disagreement, talk talk talk and talk some more until it is resolved. Communication during disagreements and arguments, should be focused toward resolution, not toward needing to be right. During any arguments or disagreements, never ever forget that this is the person you love. Remember to love him even when you want to hate him. Gently hold each other accountable for your behaviors and actions. Work through them by talking… Communication is key! But also remember to give your partner space. I mean, if you are in a disagreement and things are getting heated, it is OK to give each other space and then return to the conversation when everyone is calm and more able to handle the discussion.. If your partner wakes up in a grumpy mood, give him the space to be grumpy, but keep yourself positive because your positivity will lighten his mood and draw him into your peace. And always remember don't sweat the small stuff. When something small or petty annoys you, instead of turning it into a big thing, just repeat this phrase to yourself, "I choose to see peace instead of this". Never take your partner for granted and remember to do nice loving things for one another. And quite possibly the most important thing, is just to let each other live. Don't try to control him, let him live his life. And he will want you to live his life with him forever and ever. There is a saying that goes… "If you love a flower, don’t pick it up. Because if you pick it up it dies and it ceases to be what you love. So if you love a flower, let it be. Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation." - Osho

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Don't bring things up from the past. Once you guys have talked about it, forgive each other, and decide to move forward then don't bring it up. It seems like common sense but it can be very easy to bring something the other person did in the past when you're in an agreement.

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Realize that you two are going to be responsible for one another. Yes, you're adults, but you should always have his wellbeing and happiness in your mind when making choices.

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Communicate! Many people get upset or angry and decide to bottle it up instead of talking about it with their SO. You can never solve a problem or expect the other person to know unless you tell them. It may be tough at the time but it's always best to be honest