Tired of everything..

I'm tired of always being the bad guy in the relationship... My husband is a recovering addict got out of rehab a few months ago and works, so I try my best to not be mad or upset when he wants to sleep or go do something because of all the shit he has to do, (im with the girls 24/7 literally) but he's always rude, always has to be right tells me I need to work on communication, but yet I'm so scared to even ask him to do something or watch the girls while I go out for a couple hours cause he flips the fuck out over everything and I'm in the wrong because I get upset or angry when I ask him to change a diaper or make a bottle because I'm cleaning or doing something else and he doesn't do it. He rarely helps me and when I clean he just leaves his shit everywhere... I'm tired of trying to be nice and take all of this shit from him. But im loosing my fucking mind.. I don't want to be in this relationship anymore... I love him to death we've been together 3 years and married for 2

Anyone have any advice they can give??...