upset with sister - vent - quite long I'm sorry.
Ok, maybe I'm just overly sensitive atm but my sister has upset me. I told her last night that I was pregnant and after being shocked (we didn't think I could) was your going to get fat again and fatter than me (she was always the slim sister up until a year ago). When I said it will be a baby fat and won't be that bad she said yes it will you'll be really fat. She then preceded to say to our mum that her baby will always be first and more spoilt and that also she will always be number 1. What you need to know here is 'her baby' is a dog. I said to her I'll be stopping at mums before the baby is born and after (it's 20mins to hospital rather than 1.5 hours) so in that time frame her and the dog won't be able to stop (she lives half hour away) to which I get why. I explain, I say when my OH isn't here then she can share the bed with me but otherwise my OH will be stopping with me. She said he can stop on the sofa, I'm like really he'll be going work or resting after we have our baby? It's 1 month that I need my old room back in the house, after that we can go back to sharing it for when she stops or when I stop (she has a house of her own which she lives in).
Tonight she comes to mums (I'm here whilst having work done at the house) and fell asleep on me. I've had a tender tummy (in only 4 weeks along and I am worried something could go wrong) and she pushed her head into my stomach - you know how you do when you turn over when you sleep? ***edit: think of it as a little like a crab move you did as a kid to rearrange your feet. She was laying on me on the sofa so she was rearranging her bum/feet and used her feet to arch her back and move herself therefore putting pressure on her head/shoulders and therefore on my stomach ** Well it Hurt. I've been cramping for a while and like I said I've had a sore tummy, I spoke to dr and they said they think it's normal and feel it's probably just me worrying as well that's making it a bit more tender. When I said don't do that she said 'your not going to loose it, it will be fine' in a not nice way. I explained it hurt and that I have a tender tummy but she just went back to sleep.
There has always been rivalry with my sister, she has always been jealous of me and I don't get it. I've always been the good little sister and backed down and sorted things so there won't be friction but this has upset me. There's no point talking to her as I've tried in the past and it causes an argument and then she gets her 'friends' involved and it gets awkward and awful and I don't want that. I don't know what I am really asking - I think I just need to vent because I can't tell my OH as he'll get upset with her even more so (long story there) and same with mum. Could it be that she is jealous? She always said she never wanted kids. That her and her husband (he's dead) had nieces and nephews and didn't need or want their own? I'm used to the jealousy with me, I can get over it I've had many many years practice BUT I dunno if I can about being jealous over my child. She'll be 45 when baby comes.
Help? Advice? Am I being over sensitive?
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