Rant! Sorry long

I just want attention! I always envisioned myself with someone who would come home play with the kids, help clean up dinner and get the kids in bed then watch a movie or tv show together and go to bed. On his days off we would always be out together as a family exploring.

What I have is a husband who comes home, goes straight to our room, doesn't want to be bothered by no one, he eats dinner upstairs by himself, and myself who has been alone with the kids all day cleans dinner up by herself, gets the kids ready for bed by herself and sits in bed watching the back of my husbands head until he comes to bed between 10:30pm and 1:30 am. On weekends we drive around the same city, don't get out of the car unless is an electronic store or sit at home doing the same routine as do during the week day except he stays in his room all day because he doesn't have work.

I'm with the kids 24/7 every single day unless my mom takes them which is once a month and usually only one child at a time. I don't work, and my best friends live out of state. I fell alone.

I've threatened to leave him before but he promised he would change and did for awhile. Now its back to us literally feeling like we are roommates except he pays the bills and i care for the kids. We have 2 and we are pregnant with our 3rd, living in a small place. He complains that we need more money, so when I offer to get a night job he says no cause he doesn't think he would hear if the kids woke up in middle of the night, they are 5 and 3 and sleep through the night. I suggested he asked for a raise cause he's a supervisor doing way more then his title and doesn't get paid for all his work, and he comes up with excuses as to why he can't. He says we need a bigger place but wants me to do everything by myself, talk to the lenders, real estate agent and go look at them by myself. He is the only one with a job he has to be there cause he would be primary. So I feel like he doesn't want to take the next step. We have been together for 9.5 years and been married 6.

I'm just so fed up with always doing the same thing, and never getting attention or help.