How do I just "get over it?"

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Sooooo... I'm obsessed with the name Scottlyn for my daughter. And as soon as I thought of it, something in me just clicked. I KNEW that was her name. 
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But the dad has a stutter. And he stutters on Scottlyn. We aren't together (but we plan to co-parent) and part of me wants to say "oh well, sorry" but the kind side of me is telling myself to "get over it, her name isn't gonna be Scottlyn"
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And I know this may sound weird or crazy, but I literally get a headache and feel sick to my stomach when I try to think of other names. I haven't even met her yet but I JUST KNOW Scottlyn fits her. It literally gives me anxiety knowing Scottlyn won't be her name...
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How do I get past this feeling? Help! 
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***EDITED: in case all of ya'll CANT read. I didn't ask for your opinion if I should go with Scottlyn or not. I asked HOW CAN I GET OVER THE ANXIETY OF NOT USING THAT NAME? Geesh, people. I seriously hate all of you right now who can't read but sure as hell will give your unasked for opinion. Obviously I'm not naming her Scottlyn. Who would be evil enough to do that in this situation?! I want to know how to make myself not wanna throw up every time I think her name will be something else. Okay? Got it? We good now? Awesome.

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As someone who used to stutter really bad but grew out of it, it is really embarrassing. Sometimes I still stutter when I get really excited. I couldn't imagine not ever being able to say my own daughters name correctly. Or having to come up with a nickname for her. Can you imagine her friends asking, "Why does your dad call you (insert nickname)?" I would just cut your losses and come up with a new name, or do what others have said and use it as a middle name or save it for a future daughter.

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I would get over it. If he's gonna be in her life then you need to think about what works for everyone. You might have another girl in the future you can use the name

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Maybe you could have the father give her a nickname that he likes and call her that? 
Or let him pick the middle name, and he could call her by that.. ?

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I think you should find another name. Maybe use Scottlyn for her middle name or even a future daughter. You don't want her dad to be embarrassed when he has to say her name in public. You'll want him to feel confidant and proud! I think he should definitely have a say in this and she should be named something you both can agree on...and love!

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You are way kinder than a lot of other moms out there doing the co-parent thing. Most would just tell the guy to get over it. But I agree that you should keep that as her name and find a good nickname that doesn't make him stutter.

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I think you should find a name the father doesn't stutter on... That's just the considerate thing to do.

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I would say think about it from your daughter's perspective. A name is a special thing and you obviously care about her relationship with her dad to commit to co-parenting. As a little girl, I would be a little hurt if my dad could never say my name.

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My daughters name was Adaline before I knew she was a girl. It hasn't changed this entire time. It was her name, thru and thru. I say you name her what you want and if he can't pronounce it well - he will come up with a nickname and it'll be cute. Things happen for a reason! Go with your gut.

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Have you talked to him about it? That's what I would suggest. See how he feels about saying her name.

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I think it would be mean to name her something her dad can't even pronounce. It is his child too. It isn't that he doesn't like the name, he can't say it... I wouldn't do it.

How do I just "get over it?"

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