just caught bf cheating on me
I don't know where else to start or how to begin.
Quite recently, my boyfriend has flipped that it had taken me an hr to walk my dog. He accused me of doing "something fishy." The next day I had went over a girl friend's house and I get texts from him asking where I was and what I was doing. I told him who and where and he flipped once again. Fast forward to Sunday, and I had sent my bf a sexy picture because he had to work and was still on the clock around 10:30. I asked what time he got off, and he replied he wasn't sure, but I let him know I would stay up so we could watch a movie together.
Well, he didn't get him to 2:15 and I asked him what took so long? He told me that he had went out for drinks. Something didn't feel right so today I happened to go into our account to check the phone bill and saw there were a lot of texts between an Indiana number. I knew he didn't know anyone in Indiana, so I looked further and saw he had texted the number at 11pm and didn't stop texting til 2 am. This number also tried calling him at 2am. Now I know the majority of his friends. So I didn't say too much and went to sleep
Just last night I went to check our phone records again, and I kid you not when I say there were 2 full pages of texts between him and this number. Some texts were sent back to back by him, and some were sent back to back by the odd phone number.
I went to him and told him I didn't feel right and I felt like he was doing something he wasn't supposed to. We immediately broke out into an argument. Finally he said, "I'm it cheating. if you want proof, go ahead and look through my phone." I said yes and sat there and watched him scroll through his phone. He started swiping and I knew immediately I had caught his ass. When he told me to look, he had scrolled all the way back to August. I told him we were in September so he scrolled back and showed me his homeboys he had texted and then showed me the txt from a female coworker. He told me, "see? Nothing." I stood right there and said "who has the area code 260 and who lives in Indiana?" He stood there staring for a bit, and that's when I said, "go ahead, think long and hard."
He said, "oh! She was this girl I met when I went out at Buffalo Wild Wings who wanted to get weed. She called me first to ask." (Mind you, my bf doesn't sell weed.)
That's when I smiled and said, "caught you bitch." He looked confused as I pulled out the phone records of the two pages worth of texts. I also told him, "you texted her first which means you initiated contact. Pack your shit and get the fuck out."
His eyes got red and his facial expression changed as he began to please with me not to leave and started saying how sorry he was. He then told me he was need a week or two so he could save before he left. Then he tried grabbing me and trying to hold by hand whining about how he was saving to get me a ring and how we were going to have kids.
We had just lost a baby back in July. I pushed him off me and told him, "get the fuck out." Then my ex said something weird. He had stopped and said, "if you had already knew, why not just ask me? Why did we argue about something else before?" I looked at him confused and said, "Because Chris, I wanted to see if you would be forecoming and you weren't. You stood there and lied about a phone number you got where you said only called you once, but here I am staring at the phone records of deleted texts you didn't have in your phone before."
Chris screamed, "I delete them outta respect for you!" I quickly resonded, "if that was the case, you would have deleted your female coworkers texts as well. But you didn't. You were more than willing to show me her texts, but couldnt show me and didn't acknowledge the other groups of texts from this other girl. You "conveniently" deleted them "last night" to respect me."
I walked to my door to leave out and as I walked out he said, "I love you" as I slammed the door.
After I kicked him out today I called him so he could return my keys and so we could separate our joint phone bill. He told me he would return the keys tomorrow because he didn't want to leave the door unlocked and that he would call to cancel the phone. Well he never called about the phone, and I'm still held responsible for our $158 phone bill with TMobile because he got the galaxy S7.
After going back online to TMobile, remember the same number he said was just texting him for weed? Well, "coincidently" while I was at school and he was supposedly packing his stuff up, he had texted that number numerous times once again. And even called her a couple times.
When I got home to see he wasn't there, I get texts saying how this girl only wanted to get weed and how it was nothing and how he didn't fuck her.....yada yada.
I told him if that was the initial case, why delete her text from your phone and then try to show me text from a coworker like she was the only female texting you. If it was no big deal, you wouldn't have deleted the texts. He kept insisting it was just for weed.
I'm am beyond fustrated as I feel pain and betrayal. I am steaming with anger on top of knowing he is still texting this woman. TMobile won't allow me to just cut his line because we have to do a transfer of service or else I'm held responsible for the $400 balance still left on his phone. I just want him gone and out my life.
He didn't have a place to stay as we moved in together and I was paying for ALL bills. He just got a job as a server and works a couple days a week. To my knowledge he staying with friends or even that bitch he was texting.
How do I continue to be strong after going through this. I am so heartbroken and never thought it would happen to me. We were together for 2 yrs.
Just like that without even fighting for it he left and said i made the decision for him.
I want to get even so bad, but I also want to be the bigger person. I can't stop crying and have my nursing clinicals tomorrow, so functioning is a big issue
Please help me or guide me. He is turning 29 next month and I'm 23.
Sorry, I forgot to add I searched the number up on fb and saw it belonged to a girl named Autumn and they both recently added each other on Facebook.
******Update********
Chris was supposed to drop off my keys and call TMobile so we could transfer the service, but he kept giving me excuses that he would call me later to do itI gave him a couple hour and had yet to change the phone plan or get my keys so I immediately suspended his line so he couldn't use it anymore and I changed my locks. Some of you may think it was mean of me to suspend his line, but if you have a $700 and aren't able to pay the monthly installment or your service bill, then what are you doing with a phone in the place?
I doubt Chris will return the Galaxy S7 to me, so I may just count it as a lost and continue to make payments on it along with my own individual phone bill because I am legally responsible for the phone he has.
I also haven't heard from him and he hasn't shown up at my door. I changed my phone number and deactivated my fb account as well.
My mind and body are still trying to figure out why didn't I cut this guy off sooner and how did I let it get to this point? Was it too many chances given? Was I too easy-going? Did I not challenge him enough or not hold him accountable like I was supposed to?
In the end I did text the girl he was talking to before I changed my number. I wasn't rude or mean, but I let her know that she had helped ruin a 2 yr relationship within a matter of days. I told her that I thought she should know because of the secrecy and denial of who she was by this mutual person.
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