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Okay ladies, I need to vent!  I am 7w3days and I feel like the worst wife ever.   I feel like I'm not pulling my weight because I'm exhausted and have no energy too.  I feel like I can't please my husband as much as I used to because I just honestly fall asleep by like 730, 800 at night.  Anyone else experiencing it.  I know my husband understands that I'm going through changes but he is also one to hold stuff in and than explode when it gets to be too much.  How do I overcome this!?

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I am living that life too!! It is very hard. I sat down with my husband and had the discussion about how I felt etc. I apologized and just put everything out there. He was extremely understanding as I expected and I felt better. Now at 14 weeks I am feeling better and slowly regaining my energy. Hang in there mama it gets better!!!

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It's completely normal!! You're not a bad wife, you're a pregnant wife and your body is working overtime so of course you're going to be exhausted. It happens to us all.

I was the exact same way during my first trimester and the beginning of the 2nd. I couldn't keep my eyes open past 8/8:30pm. For week my husband and I would go to bed at separate times. Don't worry though, eventually you will get more of your energy back but you need to rest and listen to your body. If you're wiped out, then definitely toss your feet up and relax or go to bed.

Your husband just has to know that this is part of the process and while you may not look very pregnant yet, your body is working overtime and it's exhausting. Have your husband read "The Expectant Father" many experienced dads swear by it as it helped shed light on what was going on with their significant others. I got one for my husband and he was able to understand what was going on with me and knew that it was part of the process and wouldn't last forever.

So focus on taking care of yourself and knowing that this is the beginning of an exciting time for you and your husband!!

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No one can tell you how to overcome yourself. It's your attitude, you control it. If you're exhausted at 7 weeks, hunny wait till 14 weeks. Good luck.

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This is exactly what I went through in the first trimester. It was all I could do to get through work, and come home. I was so nauseous I would try to eat a bagel or some crackers and I'd be out by 8 every night and sleep until the morning. Our house got to be a little messy, but hubby was so understanding and kind. Just remind him that this will pass and you will feel better and regain your energy.

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2nd trimester will be better :) Get your rest while your body is asking for it. And in the 3rd trimester, you'll start nesting and be an overachiever lol

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Just make sure you tell him how you're feeling. I'd also probably apologize, not because you did something wrong, just so he knows you wish it wasn't like this.

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I feel the same way! First trimester and sometimes even now. 20 weeks on Friday 🙄 I never feel like I'm doing enough even when I'm doing all I can.

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The first trimester is hard,  hun.  So don't beat yourself up too much.  Yes,  you are not visibly pregnant but between everything that is going on in your body,  you need the rest. If you are worried,  talk to your husband.  I'd bet you that he probably gets it and doesn't mind picking up the slack or the lack of sex.  It's only temporary.  Your energy does come back,  mine didn't until the end of the second trimester but it did eventually.  My sex drive is still in hibernation at 28 weeks.  But every woman and pregnancy is different, a lot of women on here say that they can't keep their hands off their husbands and they are get their energy back early in their second trimester.  Good luck and remember,  go easy in yourself because your growing a human.

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Second trimester usually gets better. What i would do is explain to your husband that you recognise that your not being yourself and your tired and ask for his patience so that he doesnt just feel you are being complacent. Its how i approached my issues and husband responds well to it. A few more weeks and things should inprove.

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