what is normal?!

I'm a month PP and still in pain, I've got sensitive skin next to where they cut me, a sore butt from now being a haemorrhoid sufferer and my vaginal lips and urethra/clit are still so sore and tender (walking/standing for too long they hurt and after I pee I feel almost a burn but in the lips not urethra, it's like a painful bruised feeling in the skin at the sides) now some women are like "omg that's not right get to the docs" and other are like "I feel ya mumma I was 9 (etc) weeks before I stopped hurting" so what the hell is normal?! What are you going through? 💗