why does he do this?

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So my boyfriend and I have been together for four years. We are very happy together but like any couple we fight. We are both stubborn so neither of us will give and I usually end up crying. But when I cry he gets turned on and gets really hard and I have no explanation for it and I'm not sure if I should be disgusted about it or not

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He sounds like a sexual sadist and involuntarily becomes aroused at your pain whether it be emotional or physical. Don't take it personally it's just a fetish. Mine does it too.

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Well... as long as it doesn't turn into a "he makes you cry because it is a fetish for him" thing I guess you don't need to be too concerned... But I'd be a little offended and take it as insensitive. Though it is likely an unconscious reaction to the situation for him.

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I wouldn't say you should be disgusted at all. Everyone gets aroused in different ways, we're human and we're all different. Some men get aroused in the middle of a heated argument and some may not. That's just like saying some people get turned on by watching porn and some don't. It's probably caused by how he sees you and feels about you. In some weird way he finds you being upset over him sexy and it just turns him on. Or it may be him apologizing for the argument in a way! Maybe start thinking about things that get your turned on that you don't believe would get others turned on. You might understand it better that way.

why does he do this?

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