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I really want to have a baby but my husband says he isn't ready sometimes and other times he says he's ready. It is very confusing and I want one so bad. I've wanted to be a momma forever (that's what I would tell people I wanted to be when I was little.) However, I also don't want to push my husband into something he isn't ready for. We both know for sure we want to have kids it's just the timeline that is a little blurry. Can anyone give me some advice or at least tell me whether or not I'm as nuts as I feel?

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To me, if he sometimes says he's ready then other times says he's not, that shows he lacks the confidence that he'll be a good dad. Maybe all he needs is that positive pregnancy test to get him into daddy mode. I'd say talk it over with him and ask why he's not ready. Then, reassure him and decide on a family planning timeline together. Also, it's always better to start early in my opinion. You never know when infertility might strike!

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That's tricky, because one of you is not going to get what you want. If he's not ready maybe set a definite time frame? You are both in this marriage so you're going to have to find a common ground. I wouldn't push too hard. If he agrees only to please you, he may end up resenting you. I had to set a time frame with my ex, we agreed to wait another year and when that year was up and he still wasn't ready, I knew we were just not on the same page and eventually I had to walk away... But I wasn't married... Good luck to you.

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Thank you everyone.

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I think it's best to wait until your both 100% sure, but if it happens it happens and I'm sure he'll get used to the fact it's happening now and it'll hopefully work out alright goodluck

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I was on birth control when I got pregnant with my daughter. We are both so grateful for her (even though we've divorced) but the pregnancy was pretty miserable... He blamed it on me (we were married 🙄), said it was my fault I couldn't stay home with the baby, and eventually had a domestic violence episode that ended up with me 7 months pregnant with a black eye. Sooooo anyways, I loved being pregnant but hated my marriage when it wasn't a "joint decision". I've always wanted that husband who wants to have a baby as much as I do...

You won't regret getting pregnant ever (us moms just love our babies) but it is a huge strain on the relationship, especially when he says he's not ready. You deserve to have an excited father for your baby.

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