I miscarried last year and forced myself to attend 1 friend's shower a month later, then planned my sister's shower right after that (we were a month apart). Terrible idea. I wanted to support them, but in both cases it was really hard on me. Still trying for a rainbow now, nothing yet. I work in a new office where nobody knows my past, and there's a baby shower coming up for someone in our small department. I don't want to deal with another baby shower right now. I'm not close to the mom-to-be, but I want to be nice and feel it would be conspicuous if I don't participate. Don't feel comfortable sharing my private struggle with people to explain myself, don't want to draw attention. What would you do to 1) handle situation gracefully, and 2) practice good self-care?