Sorry if this is rude..

I'm sorry if this is rude, I'm really not trying to be.

I just don't get how some of you ladies are ready to try and conceive or have conceived shortly after you lost your baby. I always think to myself that I would be a mess, as I'm sure anyone who's lost a baby has been a mess. I think it would take me a while to ttc again. And even if I got pregnant on accident I'd be scared my whole pregnancy. This is my first baby and I've had dreams that I've miscarried her so the 4 week wait kills me, I just want to make sure she's still here.

Again I'm sorry if this was rude, I really wasn't trying to be. I'm just trying to state that I don't get it. Do some women become ready again sooner than others? I guess you really never know until that happens to you though.