First time?

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Honestly I'm terrified to have sex which is why I haven't done it. And I want to know the honest truth of how it happens like if there's pain, blood, if it's actually fun, idk. I just want to be less scared of it and know what I'd be going into

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Sit down littles I'm about to tell you a thing:

Your first time will depend on who you are with. Do this with someone who you love and really cares about you. Will there be pain? Possibly. But that could be for a few reasons such as you aren't wet enough, you haven't "popped your cherry," or a possible medical thing. If you feel pain, tell your partner to stop and try some more foreplay or finger yourself. It's going to feel more like a stretch than anything because well… there's a foreign thing going into your vagina. Will there be blood? Also a possibility. I didn't bleed my first time but others have. Remember, there is a (possibly) large thing going into a muscular tube that usually bleeds once a month. Never underestimate the power of lube, communication, and foreplay. Tell your partner of something hurts and he/she should stop. If they don't then they are douche bags. Now you were wondering if sex is fun. For some yes, for others no, but you can make it fun. Go out to dinner or see a movie before to loosen up. Wear your favorite underwear. Do your makeup of that's your thing. Tell your partner what you like and don't like. If they know you are a virgin, they could walk you through some things. Always remember you can back out at any time.  If you want to hear the story of my first time, I will be more than happy to share it. I was/am a total n00b but I had fun.

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It's fun in the sense that you're experiencing something new with, hopefully someone you love and have a true connection with.. so let me tell you my experience. 
One night my boyfriend & I were getting hot and heavy and I knew I was ready.. so I told him to grab a condom (he was surprised & excited but also asked like 5 times if I was sure 😂) yes I was sure.. he put it in.. but it only felt like it was the tip stabbing my vagina over and over.. like there was this barrier that he couldn't get past.. i was extremely tense because of the pain.. so I was telling myself in my head to relax so it doesn't hurt as bad & to try to find a good feeling.. which was basically impossible.. haha. Honestly the whole time I was just hoping he would come so it could be over.. I didn't bleed during but when I went pee after there was quite a bit. In the end I was super happy I did it, but my legs were shaking like nobodies business & it was hard to walk the next day.. haha. After like 3-5 times after that it started to finally feel good and it took even longer than that to finally have an orgasm.. id day at least a month or so of non stop sex.. haha. So my advice is to try to relax your body as much as possible during so that it's not so painful during and the next day. Other than that, there's like a very slim chance it won't be painful, but it's nothing you should hault just because you're scared. Trust me it's worth the pain once you get passed it and start having the real fun and pleasure of it all! Good luck to all you ladies! (oh and I'm still with my boyfriend whom I lost it too! And we couldn't be more happy) 😻💕

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Same. I kinda avoid it because I'm so scared.

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Make sure you are comfortable with the boy and make sure he'll make it special. I lost mine a few months ago to my step brother. It was great. He was really caring and kept asking me if I was alright and if it felt good. The pain isn't nothing unbearable it's mostly uncomfortable. I bleed a little bit but I didn't bleed for long. I guess the amount of blood and pain varies. It's actually not something to be afraid of. I hope your first time is amazing 😊

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My experience was pain, and bleeding. But it turned into a delightful pain, if that makes sense. The hymen doesn't break though. It's a whole, and it stretches. When you get a Pap smear it kinda looks like a hair scrunchie. It's different for everyone.

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Your first time can be absolutely beautiful if it's with the right person. I was determined to wait until I knew the guy truly cared about me and waited until I was 19. My current boyfriend is also the person I lost my virginity to and I regret nothing. Now, it hurt me...a lot. But my bf knew and immediately stopped and asked if I wanted to keep going. Find someone who cares for you that way.

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My first time was a one night stand, it hurt like a bitch because i was SO scared and i completely regreted doing it that way at the time. My best advice is that you do it with someone you trust and you're comfortable with. You have to stay relaxed and calm through the process so that it doesn't hurt, and also make sure that you are wet enough before he puts his penis inside, otherwise it will be very uncomfortable and painful (believe me, i lived it). Try lots of foreplay and you'll  be good.

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Sweetie, i was in the same boat! Sex TERRIFIED me to the point where i would have panic attacks anytime a guy would try to have sex with me (talk about a mood killer!) But then i met my current boyfriend. We were only together a week when we started messing around and tried having sex. It took a little while to get it in and there was pain. But it wasn't unbearable like i thought it was going to be. We took it very, very slow, he'd put it in a little deeper and stop when i started to feel pain, then he would wait for me to relax again until he proceeded. When he was all the way in, i started laughing and we high fived lol. It was a truly wonderful experience and now i love making love to him. It's going to hurt your first time, and the time after that, and so forth. The key thing to remember is to stay as relaxed as you can, and don't force it to happen. I tried to have sex witg many guys, but it failed every time. When its with the right person, it will come naturally, i promise!

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I'm in the same position right now ! In serious need of the same advice .

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My first time hurt a little but the guy was also well endowed. Mine was just a hookup, which is fine, but I'd recommend it being with someone you are pretty comfortable with. Comfortable enough to say when it hurts and when to stop. Someone who won't take advantage of you because you're a virgin. I was nervous my first time too but trust me it actually is a lot of fun once you get over any fears and doubts. Be safe and relax. Make sure you're wet enough or use lube. Lube that is safe for condoms of course. Take it slow. Try a few different basic positions to see what feels best.

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