I have three weeks until my due date and I finally finished off my birth plan to go over with my doctor at my appointment this Friday. I wrote 2 seperate pages, one for my sister and SO for a personal request and one for my doctor which covers all the medical hoopla.

I requested that no one be contacted until AFTER I am done giving birth. I was extremely specific in what I wanted them to tell people to, because I am NOT close to my SO's family. His mother has been a complete B to me previously (causing me unnecessary stress during my pregnancy) and she has a HUGE family that I do not know- that are all talking about coming to the hospital. It makes me super uncomfortable because I don't know if I even want HER to visit. So, I wrote out a message that is precisely what I need them to say and prevents him/sis from having to call anyone.

Hello family, Baby Max has arrived, is doing well and we are all very excited to share this news! Mommy is not ready for visitors yet, and we will be happy to update you when she is. We would like to specify that mommy/daddy have a lot of family to notify so they ask that you do not post any updates on social media nor notify other family, as they would like to be the first to tell everyone. Please understand that mommy/daddy and baby Max are all trying to get to know each other, so please give us as much quiet as possible. We will be in touch! Much love!

And then our update for IF I decide to take visitors, seeing as how I am an extremely private person and again, am not close to his family (let alone want anyone around while I'm attempting to breastfeed).

Hey family, Baby Max is doing great and mommy is feeling a bit more refreshed. We would like to extend the invitation to come visit us at (hospital) during their visitation hours of ##. This invitation is only for the following people, please do not surprise us with extra visitors. If you have taken ill within the last week, please stay home! We will have you visit us at a later time. Please take note that on arrival we will need to know you are waiting and daddy will come get you. The transition to air is already rough, so please turn your phones on silent and put them away. Mommy has plenty of professional photos she will share with the family and asks that you do not take any pictures at this time. Please remember that mommy may not be ready for anyone to hold baby Max, so please do not take him from her. Thanks for the patience and respecting our wishes! We can't wait to see you.

Does anyone think this is way overboard? I am an extremely anxious person and this is my first and only child. I have no idea how I am going to be feeling after giving birth. I also am very specific about easing Max's transition to the world. My sister is a professional photographer and will have taken so many photos already. People always want to get in baby's faces with phones, and wanna snatch baby from mom. I didn't think this was too much to ask that people respect these.