I just need to complain for a minute

My husband and I have been having problems with our sex life lately and I'm over it at this moment. I have had to talk with him about intimacy because he had no clue about what women need. When we got married and started having sex he would go down on me for maybe a minute and then jump right into sex, and then I told him that he needs to do it until I finished, not to mention just 2 minute sex session, he had no idea that women need to be kissed and held and felt desired during sex. So several times I've talked to him and not only am I only getting oral maybe once a week but last night during sex(which I don't have orgasims from) he rubs himself on my butt to get hard and shoves himself in my dry vagina and does his thing until he cums and when he asks me why I was disappointed last night I just want to scream!! Maybe it's because your selfish about pleasing yourself and didn't even bother to make sure I was even wet before you put it in... It's called vaginal masterbation when you use a women's vagina for your own pleasure while not even trying to please her...😖