would this bother you?
My boyfriend just told me he'd never love a woman as much as he loves his brother.
Would this bother you or am I just being weirdly jealous?
Some background for you... (long story, sorry!)
We've been together 6 1/2 years, and throughout those years, he's definitely put our relationship at risk to help out his brother. 'Borrowing' him money every month because the brother can't pay his rent because he parties every night. Wouldn't be an issue because it's his money, but when he can't split the groceries or other bills with me because he's given the money to his brother, then it's a problem. I still usually brush it off because he says it's family and he can't say no.
Well now his brother is living with us because his lease was up and he stopped showing up to his job. He did get another job when he moved here but does not contribute towards groceries or when we go out to eat or do anything together. He doesn't have a license, so my boyfriend has to drive him to and from work 5-6 days a week. He uses his paycheck to buy beer and cigarettes even though he owes my boyfriend hundreds of dollars. I've told my boyfriend how I feel, but I feel so stuck because I don't want to come between family. My boyfriend has talked to his brother about his money and drinking problems, but his brother just gets defensive and nothing changes. I've also started paying for my own groceries and keeping them separate, and make my boyfriend pay for 2/3 of the bill when we go out. I'm hoping this will open his eyes to how much he's actually spending to support his brother. Or am I wasting my time because he's always going to choose family over me? Not sure where I stand in his life now.... I thought we'd be close to engagement at this point in our relationship but I'm giving up hope because he can't save money with him spending most of his money on his brother.
I'm honestly just about done with this situation and ready to move out. I could really use some advice!!!!
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