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I live with my boyfriend and we have a almost 6 month old baby boy. He is divorced and has 6 teenagers daughters and sons. I have met all his kids and they all nice with me but except the oldest daughter. She still do not want to meet me. Of course all of them has meet my baby and they love him. His ex wife and his oldest daughter want to see my son but told him that no. I don't know why the ex wife is insterested in my son when I don't know her and haven't met her. So is not fair that his oldest daughter want see my son when she do not want to meet me. My boyfriend's daughters had got mad with the oldest that to grow up and to meet me. His kids love me and I don't have problems with them, we get well along together. Do you think that I did wrong for her not to see my baby when she do not want to meet me? I was thinking that the more I let him take my baby with the ex house then the more his daughter wouldn't want to meet me...just saying don't know. What can you guys advices? My boyfriend got super mad at me for not letting him to take my baby for her daughter to see him. He has been talking to her but she still do not want to meet me and she is 24, I think.

UPDATE: now my boyfriend want me to tell his daughter sorry but told him until he tell me sorry for threatening me bad and talk me back so loud infront of his family. Also told him that how when she do not want to meet me and said that he will talk with her. He ignored my son and want nothing from my baby just because of that. Told him that next time if he do that then I will pack his thing a to leave. A father should never threats baby like that. After work I went to pick up my son and saw him that he had my baby in his arms. Maybe he got scared and do not want to leave us.

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So your bfs daughter can't meet her own brother because you're upset she is not bothered about meeting you....

You have no connection to your bfs daughter whatsoever. There is no reason for her to want to have a relationship with you. You're not married to her father. And she's an adult of 24? So she can have a relationship with her father indépendant of whatever relationship he's in with a woman.

Seems likely there are some other reasons behind why she doesn't want to meet you.

Considering the man has 7 children maybe he's had numerous women in his life and she simply doesn't want to invest in getting to know you if her father does not commit.

Also a child has two parents. The father is entitled to take his son where he wants and meet with who he wants (unless there are concerns for the child's safety)

These are issues you deal with when you make a child with a man who has 6 children already.

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Sounds like you're being perfectly fair: his daughter can choose not to meet you, & you can choose not to let her meet the baby without you.

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My honest opinion? Yeah. You're wrong for not letting her see her sibling...

Just my opinion... 
That doesn't mean his daughter is in the right though. 
She should lower her ego & just meet you. But for some it's hard to have their parents separate & they have problems accepting that they've moved on. 
She may feel threatened by you.

I don't like my stepmom very much because it's basically got to be about her & I feel like she's taking my dad away from me. 
(Even if that's not what you're doing, she may feel threatened)

I don't think that means she shouldn't get to meet someone she's blood related to. 
I think you're both being stubborn & it just gives her an excuse not to like you. She'll feel you're keeping Her away from family.

I get not wanting the ex wife. She has no business.

You can feel whatever!! But if she doesn't want a relationship with you, this won't do anything.

I think maybe having her meet the baby might be a step. Make sure your boyfriend lets her know you thought it was important for them to meet so she can have a relationship. 
In time she might decide to meet you so she can continue to build that relationship with her brother.

It's hard, but I can promise she's not just doing it to be a bitch. There's some kind of emotional thing going on.

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You're not wrong. That's your baby. That little girl wanna be a cunt let her be!

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I think it's fair.  Why meet the baby without meeting you? I don't introduce my child to anyone that doesn't want to meet me.

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You're not wrong. If she wants to see him, she can come by the house and meet you to. She can be friendly and make an effort. As for the ex wanting to see the baby when you don't know her either I think is weird and wouldn't want that. I do think everyone involved should get along for the kids. And possibly be friends. If you are OK with that then yall could all meet? But that's up to yall. But I say no to them meeting the baby without meeting you

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I do not feel that you are in the wrong.  I would probably feel the same way you do.

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You weren't wrong.. I wouldn't let nobody meet my kids if they didn't want to meet with me.. Fuckkkkkkkk that bullshit 😑😕😠😬😡👊

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What does your husband say?  Seems like he should be able to talk to his daughter and explain the situation.

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