How to be a happy woman to your man?

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It may be long...
Im 22, mother to a 9 month old and ive been with my partner since I was 18. Hes the only man ive been with and our relationship has been an battle. Hes sexually flirted with woman of all ages, lied, and just all together been terrible to me emotionally until i was about 8 months pregnant with his child. Im very much dedicated to keeping my family together because i dont want my child growing up the way I did. 
Lately, ive been fantasizing about what it could be like with other men. I feel bored and tired and its scaring me. When it comes to sex, its quick. Theres hardly any romance  to it...Hell kiss me for a minute on the lips or on thr neck and then he judt wants to get it in. I dont feel and never have felt sexually satisfied. Emotionally, its not been great. He never treats me out to a date, he never buys me gifts, he just never goes out the way to pamper me. He never wants to go out either. No, i dont want to be spoiled but ive gone the extra mile to show him that hey, i do think about you while im out. Get this, hes never bought me a birthday, valentines or Christmas gift.
His hygiene  isnt the best. He hardly brushes his teeth and showers 2 days out the week. It terrifies me to kiss him...that itself brings him down on the attraction scale. I buy him toothbrushes every 3 months, floss, mouthwash and some crest extra deep clean. Despite that, he hardly evers takes care of his teeth. 
With all of that, i find myself wondering and sometimes wishing to be with someone else. I want good sex, i want a clean and well kept man, i want someone who will surprise me with dates and corny gifts every once in a while and i want to feel emotionally safe. I know he can give me all of all that but i know its not going to happen...theres men st my job who has shown interest and honestly, some part of me wish i went for it.
How can i make myself not feel this way. I want to get married have a son and be happy and whole family with my boyfriend the way God intended. i wanted to do it the right way and obviously  i screwed up but i want to make it right by marrying him but i dont want br unhappy either. Help.

@Naoimi There's  alot you wont notice until you start living with the dude :/ ..

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Don't stay with someone just because you have a kid together..... That's the worst excuse to stay together... My parents tried to do the same and my entire childhood was fighting and nonsense drama. Once they got a divorce and my mom got remarried, she was way happier. 😕

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You can't make yourself not feel that way. Supressing the way you feel is really dangerous. It leads to resentment, which will most likely cause the relationship to fail anyway. What you need to do is face the fact that all those things you want in a man, is not this man that you are with. You have an idea in your mind of the man you want to be with and it's not him. That means you don't want to actually be with this man. That means you love the idea of who he could be or who you want him to be, but that is somebody that he can never be. Because he is who he is. You can't change that. You say you know that he can be that person, but no he cannot be that person because that person doesn't exist. Who you have before you is who you're dealing with, not somebody who you know he "could" be. So if the person that he is is not somebody that you want to be with, then the only option you have is to let him go and find who you really want to be with. Don't stay with somebody for the sake of your family being together. If mom is not happy, nobody is happy. Your children want to see you happy. They don't want to see you in a miserable relationship.

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How did u mess with him in the first place?? Hygience is priorty!!! Good luck to u

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Never stay with someone just because you have children together and you don't want them growing up without both parents. I made that mistake and wasted my late teens & 20's. So much wasted time I'll never get back. I thought I was doing the best thing for my daughter when in reality it was the worst. He only got worse year after year. If I had listened to my thoughts which were like yours and left sooner I would've been better off. I don't like to break apart families but if your thinking those things your not happy and probably never will be with him and it's not your fault it's his. You should really start considering either moving on or trying to work on.his issues but usually men don't change so me me that option is more wasted time.

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