Emotional walls

Ladies I'm in need of advice. My man and I have been together going on 5 years. Things are good but, as us females know, we like our affectionate men. We are in that comfort zone now, if been married once before, he has not, I know what this slump is. I have spiced up sex life which is something he has caught on to. B U T... What do I do about the little things. He also has trust and a damn wall he can't seem to break. We are great and we have came a long way, I just feel like we should be closer and I don't know what to do about it. How do I bring my man back, I know I'm not the only one that's thinking this.... WTF ladies, why men have to change after they get you lol ugggg