Allow dad in surgery or Not ?

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So I'm having my son via C-section this weekend....I'm so excited idk how to keep calm. I finally get to meet my Ashton💙

Quick question though!

This my 2nd son with the same guy. Our first son is 8yrs old. Me & him broke up during my first pregnancy b/c he was very annoying to me(hormones). We decided to get back together after 7yrs & work things out, I got pregnant AGAIN(current) & this has been the worse pregnancy ever up til my 3rd trimester. First-second I was severely sick with this baby(morning sickness, spitting,etc the whole 9yards). And all he did was complain complain complain, cheat, lie, & make excuses...so eventually I got fed up & moved out. After I left he wanted me to come back & was all sorry & shit but I was totally over the whole situation b/c that's when I needed him most & he failed me several times. So fast forward To beginning of my 3rd trimester my doctor wanted me to stay off my feet until the baby was due b/c I'm so swollen(5ft 223lbs🙄) & he didn't want me to fall again....but remind u I live 3 1/2hrs away from my doctor after moving out from with the father so when I did come to town I stayed at his place but of course he had to be on some disrespectful shit talking to other girls on the phone while I was there so I said something to him about it & his response was if u don't like how I do shit around here u can leave....so I definitely left ✌️ but anywho now it's time for the baby & he wants to be in the room when I have my c-section & wants the baby named after him😂 but haven't bought shit @ ALL....at this point I don't want any dealings & just wondering will I be selfish to keep him out the room a 2nd time?

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I would not be naming the baby after him at all.

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I can't imagine having someone I don't feel is supportive in the room with me. It's still surgery, it's still your body. He can see the baby afterwards once you are out and recovered.

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Hell no, if the father of my child acted like that, I'd have a restraining order against his ass.  He wouldn't have a chance in hell of seeing his kid ever.

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Just because he fathered the child does NOT give him any rights other than parenting- he doesn't HAVE the right to be in there. That's your right to decide who supports you while you go through this. I didn't allow my sons father to come in with me. Why would I? he didn't support me one tiny bit, it's a two way street just bc he turned onto the one way isn't my fault and I WILL not reward him for that bs. Oh my son doesn't have his last name or did he have any say so. Fast forward 7yrs later my husband has been his dad since he was 3, his bio dad hasn't been there even with me turning my head to his trash just so my child can have a relationship with his bio

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KEEP HIM OUTTT!!! He does NOT deserve to be there lol he sounds like he was just a sperm donar 😂

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Hell no,  if he's not supportive during your pregnancy (or respectful,  or just  being a man) then he dose the get to be in the room.  I mean I might let him be in the waiting room and come up after your in the recovery room.  But naw

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If you don't want/need his support or feel he may cause added stress don't allow him in. If you feel he may be a good partner to have by your side when it comes down to it, why not?

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If it'll stress you out at all I wouldn't let him I'm. He can then baby after you're comfortable able to handle ny bs he might come with. I would need to be as relaxed as possible.

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I think he has a right to be there and witness the birth. It's his child too, no matter how much you dont like him or he doesnt like you. It's wrong to take that moment away from any parent.

Allow dad in surgery or Not ?

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