Insecure Boyfriend

So. Ive been with my bf going on 4 years. We have a child. We love eachother, alll that. Our sex life though. Like it used to be really good. But now. Well. Ita great when i can actaully get it. He always would rather do other things. He wanst to finger me or eat me out or rub me out, and then for me to give him head and thats our sex life. We rarely actually have sex. Now, from conversations ive tried to have about it it seems like hes insecure that he doesn't last very long. But he wont really talk about it. Like how to i pull him out of this? Hes great in bed and for some reason just stopped trying. I always gotoit being me, but if it were we wouldnt do all the other stuff all the time. Wtf do i doooo